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Race and Skin Tone Among Black Americans A Losing Game

In African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, Black Women Bloggers, celebrities on March 31, 2009 at 6:03 am

I have spoken briefly about race on the blog with the basic statement that as it relates to skin tone for blacks in the United States it’s a losing and a very conflicting game.  The issue of skin tone came hurling to the front of my thoughts this Sunday night while exploring Black Planet’s website.    They had done an article on P Diddy and his casting call request which read as follows:

The management company for Diddy’s Ciroc-Imperative Talent Management-sent out a casting call and they were very clear about their requirements:

Race: White, Hispanic or Light skinned African American

Subject: Promo girls needed!!!
Date: Tuesday, March 24, 2009, 9:49 PM

Ciroc Promotion

Ciroc promo is this Friday, March 27, 2009
Time: 3:00pm – 7:00pm and 12:00am – 3:00am


Race: White, hispanic or light skinned african american
Height: At least 5?6 or taller
Size 7 or smaller.

This is a cash @ wrap job and the booking will be thru our partner. Please submit asap. Talent will only be contacted if the client is interested in booking you!!!

Compensation: $35.00 per hour

Imperative Talent Management
3500 Lenox Road, Suite 1500
Atlanta, GA 30326
404-419-2565 Office
404-419-2564 Office

After seeing this ad two things occurred to me, Brown and Black girls are not allowed and after meeting all of these requests of height, skin tone and color, and size these girls would only get $35.00 and hour.  Looking at this I recalled my conversation with a retired black prostitute formerly married to a retired dead SF police officer.  Wow these girls will give sex away for anything she said, they’ll give out sex for a ten dollar crack rock.  I used to go to Vegas and make thousands in a weekend, she said, I don’t understand.   Diddy’s call and his pay was an insult to dark toned black women as well as an attempt to play all women short in terms of pay and what the going rate for a model is which I hope is more than $35 an hour. The cost of Ciroc Vodka is $30.oo a bottle.  8 bottles of ciroc is $240.00.  I would hope these women would regognize that they are worth a great deal more than 8 bottles of Vodka.

In any event this post is not about model pay.  It’s about race in the black community.

My first experience with race came at an Air Force Base Fair when my mischievous father challenged our next door neighbor to go to the kissing booth and kiss the “white” women at the kissing booth.  Our next door neighbor who was a quiet man who I had hardly ever heard talk was pretty doubtful of the idea but my father egged him and taunted him on so eventually he gave in.  They walked over and kissed the woman on the lips and that was it.

The Fallout

I don’t know how it got back to our neighbors wife but I still can remember her coming to our house discussing the issue with my mom.  I can hear her loud shrill voice saying the following: As light as I am, and she was very light she was about ten shades lighter than a paper bag and could go easily for Jewish,  anyway I remember her saying as light as I am he’s going to have the nerve to go and kiss a white woman.  I’m leaving him.  I then listened to her talk about his very dark family even his momma.  I’m getting a divorce she said and she left him after many years of marriage.

She immediately moved off base and filed for divorce, all because of an innocent kiss with a white woman. “this was an extreme racial reaction probably in response to their private conversations where this man blacker than the silkiest of black cats probably told her in Diddy fashion, baby I love your skin etc. etc. etc.  What probably went through her mind was he wants to go even lighter to whiter and she left.  Diddy’s casting call is essentially what went through this very light skin women’s mind am I black enough, if he wants me this light he may eventually go over to another race.  The very innocent kiss was like a bell in her head.  He wants something else.  Hypothetically but not realistically she could have been right as one commenter on Black Planet stated Diddy has gone from very dark skin women all the way up to white women and so has 50 cent.

The Reaction


I suppose anyone reading this may wonder how could someone else’s divorce traumatize me.  I suppose being a witness to everything that occurred could have traumatized a little girl seeing the kiss, hearing the reaction, and watching the woman move out could have alerted me to the strange  nature of race.   However this was not all, this was not all.   The quiet man who hardly ever spoke was so upset about losing his wife and family that he went to his wifes job, the Pentagon, met her in the parking lot and stabbed her fourteen times with gigantic scissors one more stab and she would have been dead.  This was my first real experience with the peculiar nature of race in the United States and it’s consequences.

My first real insight into men like Diddy came with the reading of  ablack woman’s autobiography.  I thought it was Anne Moody but it’s been so long ago since I read the book I forgot the title of the book but I did not forget the contents.  The writer of the book went into detail about what it was like to be black but almost white in the United States.  She said she met a man married him and fell in love with him but there was a caveat he did not know she was black.  She said she discovered that he thought she was white after they were married when he and his friends started having white women black men parties only.  She said she was shocked at the things that she heard black men saying about black women and then when she went with the white women alone she said she was surprised with what they said about the black men.  She states they said terrible things.  The author of the book finally states that she got fed up with the dinner parties and started screaming my momma is black you better stop talking about black women.  I’m black.  The reaction was her husband beat her up and threw her down the stairs and kicked her out the house.

On the other hand as a brown woman I have been the victim of being not light enough and not black enough. Personally the men who love dark skin women are the creepiest.  They make their discrimination ceremonial.  If you are with a group they will have the darker women at the center of attention, and will drip on her every word.  A perfect example is in one of  John Legend’s live Videos he went out of his way to put a darker skin women on this video.  He grinded all over her publicly he treated her like he was really into her and this was the type of woman he liked.  Actually at the time his girlfriend was not even black.

While Diddy may be irritating he said what he wanted and we know where he’s coming from, the really irritating ones are the pretenders, pretend you like very dark skin women and then you’re caught in the corner with someone totally different.  This is so disappointing.


Rihanna’s Assault Sheds Light on Hip Hops Illusatory Power

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, black blogger, black bloggers, black twitters, Black Women Bloggers, celebrities, entertainment, ethnic twitters, female blogger, female bloggers on March 14, 2009 at 8:48 am

Hip Hoppers are fond of imitating Gangsters in their videos.  Some even imitate the Italian Mafia.  However with the recent beating of Rihanna by Chris Brown.  Many are questioning the depth and the breadth of Hip Hops ability to be self policing and in the least have the ruthlessness to control star talents such as Chris Brown who not only harm  his bottom line when he beats up women but harm the whole industry.  Actions such as P Diddy in inviting Chris Brown to his home after Rihannas beating further shed light on the falseness of the ruthlessness facade of toughness and Gangsterism.

If the Black Hip Hop world were truly like the mafia the consequences of beating such a big star and money maker as Rihanna would have resulted in swift justice for Chris Brown such as a broken leg or in the least a black eye.  Instead the woman ended up with the black eye almost fueling fire to the homoeroticism rumours swirling around hip hop artists.  Furthermore Rihannas mentor though issuing lip service to his disgust concerning the incident  seemed to be powerless to do anything substantial before the publicly aired beating or after.  The manner in which Rihanna quickly returned to Chris Brown leads me to believe that this was not Rihanna’s first time being beat at the hands of  Chris Brown.  If this is true this further sheds light on the weak individuals that are in the hip hop industry and are Rihanna’s friends and lovers.   Even if Rihanna  chooses to go back to Chris Brown it seems like someone in the tough guy hip hop industry does not have the balls to tell Chris Brown if you hit her one more time you’re going to be gone from this earth.  It just goes to show cash does not always translate into power.

A southern father in a small town has more power than these wealthy hip hoppers.  In my early twenties I took a cross country trip on the greyhound bus and sat next to a man who had just gotten out of jail.  He wanted to talk and seemed to think that he had been framed by a southern gentlemen because he cheated on his daughter.  He seemed to think someone had planted drugs in his car and sent him off to jail for three years making Bob Barker shoes.  Whether this story was true or not this Southern Father did what it took to defend his daughters honor.  In the meanwhile hip hoppers are getting Prissy on the runway and kissing each other in the mouth.  You know who you are.  They seem to have forgotten who the girl is.  Are they beating on women to indicate to their secret lovers that the straight life is just a facade.

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Atlanta Ladies Do Not Take A Date Here

In African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, Atlanta, black blogger, black bloggers, Black Women Bloggers, borowing, borrowing, celebrities, College Educated, entertainment, family, fashion, female blogger, female bloggers, Georgia, Neighborhoods, relationships on February 26, 2009 at 9:40 am

You know I had a favorite spot that I liked to go.  I liked to go there so much that when my black professional  group decided to change venues to a predominately white meeting place instead of going next door I canceled my membership.  The thing that I liked so much about this place was that it seemed to be like a movie set.

However, after taking a date to Club Circa I decided that the whole I-20 corridor is not date friendly.  I have written previously about taking a friend, a strong friend  to a restaurant in Conyers and having the waitress ask him, my close to four hundred pound friend lick the hot sauce off her arm.  Ladies, just because he’s with me this does not mean he is rich or has a big penis.  He may just be my friend.  I was slightly amused by the incident because he was not my boyfriend and not my love interest but it made me strongly concerned about the families in the Conyers area that were exchanging black wives for white wives considering this woman was white.   In any event I don’t know what happened between them, I encouraged him to go back  another time because he wanted  me to help him shop for presents for his toddler son in North Dakota.  It should be noted however that he had already asked me to marry him, move in with him, do whatever it took just to be special to me.  This would have never happened considering I had a friend years ago who dated him and loved him.  He’s extremely charismatic and a phenomenal friend.   If I need something even though I have not spoken to him in a year he’ll come through.

In any event I have never had much of a problem meeting men when I just walk out of the door , single eligible men.  To just give you an example of my past  I have met one Grammy award nominee in the grocery store.  I met a physical therapist in the grocery store.  I met someone who opened for an act that has won five grammys at Georgia State University, and I know one man who writes and performs for grammy and award winning acts all around the world who I met at Barnes and Noble in Buckhead who used to call me from London and Paris and other places every night.  The truth is I was not interested in any of the people I have mentioned except maybe the guy who called from London and Paris and he was too impatient meaning when he was in town I had to be ready to make a move immediately, as well as some other reasons that made him turn into just a plain rat.  In any event I have never looked for just a man, but a man that I liked and was compatible with.

The men I usually ended up dating in the past and liked very much were usually visual artists, or writers, or maybe a persistent engineer.  I just want to say that the particular engineer that built bridges that I met was the best.  I could say I want and he would not just bring me one he’d bring me thirty- phenomenal.  The one incident that I think defined me and let me know that I had it was when my friends in college dragged me to a fraternity party because the man I liked/loved who was supposed to be coming from D.C. did not show up and I was dragged to this Frat party.  I am not a dancer, except in the dark because I am extremely shy.  So when one of the frat guys jumped into my lap and said either you came here to dance or to fuck , if not get out. I left and so did every other woman in the place.  I always chuckle when I think about this incident.

In regards to men I would also like to add that the majority of men that have come up to me and I have dated extensively have been well endowed.  It was not until the end of my marriage while in my thirties  and I got back into the dating scene that I actually knew that the statement  all black men are well endowed was just a plain out myth and a lie.     I have never had much of a problem attracting a man, if any man would do I suppose I would have one.

In order to find the right man, I turned to the personal ads of craigslist.  I was looking for an intelligent man in the least, a person that I could hold a conversation with.  I was not looking for someone with the characteristics of my former husband a 6’2 dead ringer for Rick Fox who was extremely intelligent and profoundly gifted who produced our daughter who is a dead ringer for an Asian looking Hallie Berry.  And where do I fit into this star studded continuum, one night as I was leaving a political meeting at Manuel’s Tavern a man screamed out of the car Chaka as in Chaka Khan.  My mother told me that I should not be flattered because this meant he was calling me fat.  Oh Well!  In any event I turned to craigslist to find someone to talk to and possibly probably have a long term relationship with.

I went out on the first date with a man I knew I was just not interested in nor even for a friend, we went to Chilis in Lithonia and the waitress went into a long story about only getting paid a certain amount  an hour and how she had no one to take her out.  I watched as she flirted with my date the whole night and  I thought just in character, I think on my next date I’ll go to Atlanta and my date ended with him saying maybe we should have gone to Midtown.  I was not interested in this first date and it ended with her giving him a check that had come and see me again in quotations.  This basically characterizes the black Atlanta dating scene whether it’s date night for marrieds or date night for singles.  This is why I think Forbes rated Atlanta as one of the best places for singles because it’s so predatory and the advantage is for men.  The caveat is I have fielded stares and glances from men who were with other women, while taking my family out to a birthday celebration one man sat and stared at me until I left and his date probably wife was evidently oblivious to what was going on or did not care as long as she could keep purchasing her LV pocketbooks.  I suppose the women that I have had the misfortune to run into with a lot of exceptions may have winked and managed to get him his number, but that’s not me.   Since I have not begun to tell my Circa story I would like to add that I was sitting beside a man at Cafe Circa who was tall and good looking that I could have been extremely interested in but he had a date and I had a date so I tried not to look at him.  Maybe if I change my personality in my next life I’ll slip my phone number to him. As the date I was with is fond of explaining about parallel universes and the time continuum maybe this is what I did in a parallel universe slipped my phone number to him and experienced the pleasure of his extreme good looks and long body.

Anyway I’ve written so much backgrond to get into this story at Circa I’m sick of writing.  Circa is a place that I stumbled upon, for some reason the coffee shop that my professional group was meeting at was now consistently closed at the time we were supposed to meet there.  I think it was someone’s comment about her green or burgundy hair that shut us out of that venue, but she refused to open for us anymore.  I did manage to catch her open the first time I came to the meeting and in attendance was the African contingency of professionals who were lots of  fun to be around, the Ethiopians, Somalis and some others nice……… In any event at the next meeting the proprietor had shut the place down and we had to find another place to meet which ended up being next door but in the midst of Atlanta off of Auburn Avenue where the King home was located had the feeling of skinhead heaven.  We managed to meet at this locale despite the fact that the staff kept throwing us glances like they hated us and did not want our money because we were black.  Unfortunately at the next meeting the coffeehouse women did not show up  so we went to Cafe Circa two doors down and had a wonderful time.  I thought Circa was a great place.  I told my friends and family about it .

So I naturally assumed that Cafe Circa would be a great place to bring a date, a craigslist date that I liked that I talked to for ninety minutes at a time. I also assumed that it was safe because my dear single  friend who I think is one of the most honorable and greatest men I have ever met had recently given a private party there that I could not attend due to illness so I naturally assumed that this place would be a place where the wait staff knew how to act, some of the things that happened I am not going to get into because it seems so strange and surreal, like the singer singing Tyrone by Erykah Badu and when my date could not hear me he texted something on his phone and passed the phone to me and she started singing don’t even have no phone, have to use my phone to text.  At the time I thought the singer was irritated because we were not giving her all of our attention but when I got home and thought about it I was really offended.

In any event I have not gotten to the good part yet.  The waitress came and took our order.  My date orderedtwo drinks and water.  I ordered one Peach Martini.  The waitress came back and put each one of his three drinks on a coaster, meaning three drinks and three straws, for my one little drink I did not get a coaster or a straw.  The waitress then preceded to lay and rub on my date all night long and glare at me from the corner.  I noticed this because my date was asking me not to button up my sweater  so he could look down my cleavage and I jokingly said yeah I saw a psychologist on TV and she had a big necklace on in her cleavage which indicated to me that we were supposed to be looking at her cleavage and nothing else. I pointed to my cleavage and jokingly said you’re supposed to be looking at my cleavage and nothing else, as I looked up the waitress was staring straight down my throat.  It made me feel rather strange.  Suddenly she came up and jerked my plate off of the table and I was quite shocked.

I honestly did not think anything of it, until I went out with my date that I like very much the next night to the Real Chow Baby at the Galleria – excellent staff , my craigslist date commented on the trendiness of the staff and their attire.  He thought one waitress had a mohawk but I explained to him she had a really great perm.  She was cute, young, and free and that’s just how you should be at twenty- something not trying to glare someone down for being on a date.  The Real Chow baby was a totally different atmosphere, I know it’s more general audience oriented  but Christ even at a lounge the waitress should not be feeling and rubbing your date up unless they are looking for johns.  In any event we went to cafe Intermezzo in Dunwoody after the Real Chow Baby where I found out the date had given the waitress at Cafe Circa a 25% tip.  I think I could have swallowed twenty because I give twenty to most people even if the service is not great but twenty-five percent was a little hard to swallow, I’ve even been out with 50 and hundred dollar tippers but the waiter or waitress respected me and my date.  I was taken aback and offended that I could be treated so shabbily and my date preceded to give the woman a twenty-five percent tip. I was mad at him and this revelation made me really think that Cafe Circa does offer the services of women of questionable character, I know my date paid for a back rub and to get laid on.  Ladies if your married man tells you he’s going to Circa for business I would question if it’s monkey business compliments of the wait staff.

Finally I would like to say Cafe Intermezzo in Dunwoody was wonderful as usual.  It’s been a great date spot for years.  I have an affinity for Dunwoody, when I temped, the temp agencies in Dunwoody always made sure that I had a job and was working.  When I was in an executive training program and all of the participants had MBA’s Dunwoody still found a place for me in this program.  Dunwoody is a good place as well as my family has had other financial and banking needs that the 20 corrider could not take care of and the Galleria area  where The Real Chow Baby is located came through.  I suppose I say all of this to say that if I take the time to put an ad in craigslist.  I should take the time to suggest places to my date that exemplify the character and the values that I try to practice in real life.

The twenty corridor is not doing it for me and ladies Circa Cafe is an absolutely horrible place to take someone you like and cherish to.  I am trying to salvage even a friendship out of this craigslist person that I loved talking to but the shadow of a 25% tip when I could not get a coaster or a straw and had my plate jerked from under me is making me feel that my date just did not respect me as much as he should, he says he did not know.  We talk everyday for at least two hours but I’m still wondering about him. 🙂

Highlights of The Michelle Obama Role Model AC 360 Coverage

In African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, Black Women Bloggers, politics on November 28, 2008 at 2:52 am

This year I have been amazed at the things happening before me in the media.  I will never get over the Democrats in Michigan taking votes from Hillary Clinton and giving them to Barack Obama during the presidential primary and not hearing a peep about it except from Boston and LA media outlets.  My previous blog entry covered the Anderson Copper episode on November 24, 2008 and their coverage of Black Women.

While everyone was in an uproar over Don Imus and his comments about black Female basketball players at Rutgers being Nappy Headed Hoes.  No one seemed particularly concerned with the fact that CNN has aired a piece about black women that was doubly offensive, badly researched and just plain wrong.  I have to admit that after contemplating the CNN piece I had to think that maybe my processing of the piece was over the top.  Did I over react to the coverage and I have thought about this for days.  At some point I even wondered if despite the fact that I had seen the coverage twice if I had somehow put words into the piece that were not there.  In the modern day U.S. where Kings dream is played out everyday with black, white, red, and yellow children in schools and with adults in companies, and corporations and even in social situations.  It was a little hard for me to believe that a major media outlet would make a racial attack on one group of people.

For me, personally the way CNN covers black people is just as offensive as historical coverage of whites calling blacks Niggers and Coons openly on T.V. in the 1950’s and 60″s.  I find CNN’S coverage of black people and in this piece black women far more insidious and dangerous to black people than any noose hanging from a tree without a name or a color on it.  The noose is objective and inanimate.  If anyone feels offended by a noose it’s what they bring to the situation but CNN is actually telling people what to say and how to feel about black women and black people.  They may say that it’s to benefit black women, but CNN’s coverage of Black women the other day made me want to hide.  For me the coverage made me feel like some one had thrown me on the ground, pulled my legs open and looked in with a flashlight.  It violated me.

As far as Michelle Obama is concerned I have not failed to notice Michelle is Black. Neither has my mother who keeps repeating slyly Safire in the White House.  I find it particularly interesting that my mother uses this term because she’s never used it before.  As a black woman I find it triumphant that a black woman is in the White House and I thinks it’s ground breaking.  However what CNN is failing to pick up when they cover Michelle Obama at the expense of other black women (Quotes from CNN)

[ALLISON SAMUELS, “NEWSWEEK”: When you look at television, we’re either, you know, single mothers with a bunch of children or drug addicts or street walkers.]

[KAYE: Allison Samuels wrote this article for “Newsweek.” She hopes and expects having Michelle Obama in the White House will help put an end to the stereotyping of African-American women, often portrayed as overweight, ignorant and angry.]

What CNN is failing to pick up is that as black people, as black women, we don’t care what black woman is in the White House and if she rolls her eyes stomps her feet and screams and these are the stereotypes we subscribe to. We don’t care we applaud it, and if she stomps her feet and gets loud we know why.  I am African American and I am loud I admit it. In my case I have not always  been loud . I used to be quiet as a mouse.  I write this with tears in my eyes,  becuase lately my tone is loud and strident and for those white women in particular who continually date black men and have black children after a while society has made them loud and strident too.  If you choose to be culturally black you will eventually be a safire whether out loud or inside.   We want Michelle to be a bonafide black woman in the White House and she has said that she’s the one who tells Barack Obama you’re not all that.  I have even read it being described as her south side of Chicago roots make Barack Obama see reality.  This is the safire in  Michelle and this is what is admired.  This is a real black woman in the White House.  It does not matter what profession Michelle Obama has chosen Teacher, Attorney, House Wife,  Stripper – (Italy and France).  We admire her because she’s black and the first Black First Lady when all the rest have been white.

CNN fails to realize in their AC 360 piece on Michelle Obama as a role model, you don’t have to bring black women down to put her on a pedestal.  She’s there.  No one has to justify her existence who she is or why. She’s there.  To attempt to cover Michelle Obama at the expense of black women not only insults the general population of black women but insults Michelle Obama also.  She is the First Lady and that’s not negotiable.

As for CNN and their coverage of black women.  I have heard black women stereotyped as the following:

[SAMUELS: We still have that negative image of black women being overweight and very loud and rolling their eyes and talking back and having these sassy one-liners all the time.]

I am familiar with the above stereotype.  However I was not aware that all of the world and society thinks of black women as street walkers and drug addicts.  This is indeed news to me and I would definitely be interested in seeing the research to back up these comments.  I took a sociology  class on interracial understanding many years ago with all races and we had to list our stereotypes about various races and the term street walker and drug addict was not associated with black people or for that matter was not a stereotype of a particular race.  Hitler was a drug addict.  In certain European countries they have drug addict areas.  Places where individuals can go and use their drugs of choice.   Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world and in Amsterdam women stand in the window and advertise their womanly charms.  In London they have Pink brothels so people interested in paying for sex can get something in the middle of the afternoon.  I don’t think anyone associates drugs and sex with any particular race.  Anyone who says that the world views black women as prostitutes and drug addicts subscribes to a fallacy; and I don’t believe that these statements can be supported with real research.

CNN goes on to say about black women,

“OLIVIA FISHKIN, NEW YORK RESIDENT: The average African-American woman should take heed and hope that, with hard work and study, that they can also elevate themselves and aspire to become whatever they want to become.”

You know I don’t think that Michelle Obama when she met and married Barack Obama said gee if I marry this man I’m going to be First Lady.  She became Barack Obama’s wife and he became president.  The average women black or white unless they are Hillary Clinton is not going to go out and say golly gee if I marry this man, I’m going to be First Lady.  As for Michelle Obama’s professional accomplishments I respect her for them but she won an athletic scholarship to Princeton and everyone knows the rumor about Ivy League colleges exposed by Larry Summers,  Obama’s buddy,  that if you are accepted into an Ivy League College you’re just going to get good grades no matter what.  All you have to do is be accepted.   Just like the NBA, not everyone is athletically gifted enough to get an athletic scholarship to Princeton like Michelle Obama. As for the six figure salary, she got that after her husband became a state Senator.  We can not play the Emperors New Clothes game with the Obama’s but if we are playing the role model game lets be transparently honest.  What is is.

CNN goes on to say,

[KAYE: What about her skin color? It’s much darker than African- American celebrities like Beyonce or Halle Berry. Samuels says that may send the message black is beautiful.

SAMUELS: In the African-American community, a lot of times beauty is sort of determined by how light you are. And what I love about Michelle is that she’s not that typical look.]

You know as a black woman I am familiar with the hurts of being browner.  I am also familiar with the hurts of not being dark enough.   I am not going to celebrate Michelle Obama’s darkness at the expense of my beautiful beautiful daughter or my mother , my mother like her father in her old age is looking more and more white versus black. My mother’s color has not saved her from hurt nor harm in life. Neither has the color of many of my friends. My daughter who is quite beautiful and tall, and at age eight looks like a petite black Asian woman went to pay for my gas and the store owner gave it to her, I had to track back and pay for it.  I find it painful that she may be discriminated against because she is lighter and prettier.  She has been discriminated against before because she was not dark enough and her features were not ethnic enough and it hurt me deeply.  The Michelle Obama craze because of her skin color has me warning my daughter who is not even close to being sexually active not to have sex before marriage, because I don’t want anyone using her body and then throwing her away because she’s not dark enough.

A society that deals in a races color as a sex symbol ultimately wants what it want’s it’ own image.  Maybe if CNN is concerned with the variety of black women they should try giving a black woman that is not the color of a paper bag a job as an anchor.  Practice what you are trying to preach.

Finally CNN goes on to say,

KAYE: Michelle Obama’s physique may also light a fire under black women. Federal statistics show four out of five African- American women are overweight or obese. Mrs. Obama works out daily, often before her girls are even awake.

SAMUELS: You don’t necessarily look at a size zero and go, “OK, I can look like that” in fashion magazines, but you have this real- life woman, who’s a mother and a wife, who is making time to sort of work out and look good. And I think all of that is going to play a big role in African-American woman, you know, just sort of taking a step back and saying, “What can I do to be healthy?”

I am particularly concerned with the fact that CNN want’s to light a fire under my butt.  I don’t think all of the exercise in the world will ever make me look like Michelle Obama.  I am 5’3. I have large breasts like my grandmother and mother.   She’s close to six feet and has small breasts and a big butt and she looks very big especially in the hips. I would be curious to know what size she wears and how much she weighs.  I’d like to see her step  up on the scale on TV and not get second hand knowledge about her size.   If she’s working out I don’t see it, I did see it but it looks like the election may have made her gain weight, as I have since the election began.  I think I’ll continue to look at celebrities as my radar for how I’m supposed to look.  As for CNN there are a lot more white people in the United States than white people therefore there are a lot more white obese people in the United States.  Since CNN is fond of picking up NBC’s cast off anchors maybe they could do what NBC has done, institute a National challenge for the whole United States regardless of color.  I fail to see how a persons weight defines them as a person and health is important but in the context of this piece it’s just a cheap shot at black women.

As for CNN, CNN may want to look internally for why the piece on Michelle Obama was so negative towards black women.  I am aware that some of the white women on staff at CNN are involved in interracial relationships with black men and vice versa.  Years ago my Sunday entertainment was watching Lester Holt and one of the CNN anchor women and I knew that Lester was married but this current CNN anchor woman seemed not to care.  In any event I think when someone referred to Obama as African American, a CNN representative went into a long sketch on Obama’s mother being white and how she had interacial kids.  We all know that Obama is interracial but despite what some may think.  He’s not where is because he’s interacial.  He’s where he is because his white grandmother married to a white man set up a great example for him and demonstrated through example that anything is possible.  It’s a great story that Barack Obama’s grandmother worked her way up from the secretarial pool to the Vice President of a bank.  This is why Obama is where he is.  Obama makes a great case for interacial adoption since his black father ran off and his white mother left him with his grandmother but I’m not seeing the case for interracial relationships.  I’m seeing a case for stable relationships.  I’m seeing that by marrying Michelle Obama, Barack Obama walked in the steps of his white grandparents in his desire for a more traditional lifestyle.  He has a desire to be a husband and a father and have a traditional family life.

That Gremlin Soledad Obrien is Attacking Black People Again She must have Just Rafted Over From Cuba (Soledad Subs for Anderson)

In barack obama, democrats, politics, presidential race on November 25, 2008 at 9:09 am

Erykah Badu Sings Southern Gurl – Every Black Girl Has A Vote and Every Black Girl Deserves to Be Respected Despite what CNN and Newsweek says

I have learned something about Anderson Cooper, whenever the producers of his show decide to air something controversial or distasteful that he does not want to be associated with he manages to not be on his own show Anderson Cooper 360 and hands the dirt bag to Soledad Obrien who as far as black people go will say anything distasteful, stereotypical or just plain out rotten about black people that she thinks will make her career.  Well the last Anderson Cooper showed Soledad at her best in stereotyping Black Women. I also had to wonder as I watched the piece if Soledad had just swam across from Cuba, as she seemed totally unaware of the strides that black women have made outside of being someones wife.   I had to wonder if Soledad had ever heard of Dr. Condeleeza Rice, on leave from Provost of Stanford University and current Secretary of State.  The world has, but alas poor soledad must be suffering a  language barrier.  I am still wondering why she hasn’t done a piece on Hispanics yet, I think Latin America is having a really rotten drug war that’s resulting in a loss of lives.  I would be interested in seeing this issue covered.  I am concerned that the drug war may come over the border.

In any event, last night the gremlin resembling Soledad Obrien did a piece on black women and how Michelle Obama will elevate black women and how they the world sees black women and how they see themselves.  As a women maybe ten years younger or more  than Soledad Obrien, I had to think that her piece was hackneyed and not very current. As usual Soledad Obrien’s information was totally biased and badly researched.  The miltimedia headlights included “Medea” and some other man who dresses as a woman in the piece, big fat women rolling around the screen, and children hollering.  Evidently the producer of the piece is not aware that Medea is a man. The producer is also not aware that Tyler Perry tries to highlight Medea’s positive qualities and Medea is a satire on African Americans. It’s not a stereotype but almost a look at the past and maybe while some of us may not be like that “anymore” or have ever been like that, we may need to be like this in some ways is Tyler Perry’s message is.   If anyone is familiar with the literature of Lindon Hills by Gloria Naylor who writes fiction on black class and status issues, they will notice the thread of Linden Hills a book by Naylor in Perry’s Work.  Naylor essentially says in Linden hills by having the rich people live at the bottom of the hill and the poor at the top the higher they (Striving blacks) climb, the further they fall in terms of morals, family life,relation to God etc.   I think Tyler Perry tries to draw the same parallel. Unless you have an extremely low IQ I don’t think that Perry expects viewers of his movies to think that his movies are real life and MEdea is a real woman.

Soledad had one Newsweek pundit saying society stereotypes black women as street walkers and drug addicts.  The show also gave statistics on black women and obesity.  She also conveniently mentioned blacks and skin color and how Michelle Obama’s dark skin would raise the esteem of dark skin people.   She mentioned Beyonce and Hallie Berry as sex symbols and said we had no dark skin sex symbols.  I think Angela Basset, Janet Jackson, Alliyah, Erykah Badu and Rihanna qualify for me as women who are brown or do not have traditional European features. I think girlfriends, produced by Kelsey Grammar who was a McCain supporter presents a multi colored cast of sexy African American women.  Finally Soledad did an interview with Faye Waddeldon and said that Michelle Obama elevates the possibility of what black women can do. Personally while having a law degree and a job is commendable, as a woman I respect women who go to the top of their professions not who just perform the act of acquiring , for Barack or Michelle Obama even a brief before the Supreme Court would have earned a tremendous amount of respect from me.  As for Faye Waddledon I remember Faye Waddledon from when I was ten years old, Pre-Cosby.   The world has changed a lot in those years.  Has she done any new research in twenty years she’s still saying the same thing she said twenty years ago.     HUH”””””””””””” I suppose Condoleeza Rice was not the first female National Security adviser and the first Black Female Secretary of State.   Black Women have already been elevated and the Republican Party did it.  The same people attacking black women are the same people who attacked and are attacking Sarah Palin.  They hate women.  They do not love Michelle Obama, they are attempting to compensate for her lack by attacking black women.  They are attempting to build her up by comparing her with a social problem.  All I want Michelle to do is comb her hair, put on a suit, and keep her children’s hair neatly combed and done at all times.  This is not rocket science, the women who are the targets of CNN’s piece do it well all the time, maybe they would be more suited to the role of First Lady rather than a Harvard trained Attorney.  Michelle’s job is First Lady (WIFE)  lets just pray she can take care of her ceremonial duties without a hell to Oblivion dress on, let’s hope she knows how to be a good wife and mother if she can do this she would have met the criteria for the job of First Lady.  There is no degree requirement for First Lady!

In the the year 2009 America will be celebrating a ground breaking event, it’s first Black President.  Unfortunately what CNN has failed to realize on a recent report on  Michelle Obama and how she breaks the mold of Black women is that this historic election of a black man in the white house was done step by step and partially shattered by the positive media examples of black women and men in the media.  Personally I believe the presence of a smart articulate black woman such as Secretary of State, Condoleeza Rice was critical to Barack  Obama becoming President.  When the United States had no idea what was happening in the Bush Administration Condi, Secretary of State was able to explain to us in a graceful, feminine, kindly way what was going on in the world.  In the Bush administration Condi was our light.

In any event the most ground breaking thing that a black women did this year for me was make a video.  I am a horror buff.  I just love the movie Silent Hill as well as Hostel.    So when I saw the following video by Rihanna since I rarely see black people in a horror genre I was thrilled.

This is ground breaking to me (it says something about please click on a link thanks, I have not clicked on the link and do not know where it leads, as far as this blog is concerned please do not click on anything other than the youtube play icon.):

A Guide to Explaining to Your Child How Obama the Believer in 9th Month abortion, the former Gang Member and Cocaine User Became President

In barack obama, politics, presidential race on November 17, 2008 at 3:54 pm

When my twelve year old first learned that Barack Obama had become president, he was flabbergasted, he asked me, should I go out and take drugs?  Should I advocate Baby Killing and have my future girlfreinds have abortions?  Is this what it’s going to take for me to be successful in life.  Personally I wondered the same thing, it does seem like the drug addicts, abortion ladies, and alcoholics seem to be winning the game of life.  Unfortunately what the economy has shown us is their wins mean a net loss for the United States in terms of quality of goods, innovations, intelligence and creativity.  Lack of integrity, falsity, and immorality are wrecking our economy.

I explained to my child  that just because things or people are popular this does not mean that these things are ordained by God.  After the election I explained to him about Hitler having a mandate also, and what resulted from his mandate was the holocaust.  I further explained to him that just as the news reported that the United States was experiencing economic distress during our election cycle, Germany was experiencing economic hardships and voted in Hitler.  I further explained to him that if it’s a choice of losing your house and voting for a pro-life issue when you would never dream of having an abortion, or voting for a coke sniffer then most people are going to vote for the person on the party ticket they think will help them personally, and the Republicans had not quite convinced the majority of the United States that earns less than $40,000 that they would be there for them, the Republicans got stuck at $250,000 with Joe the Plumber and they seemed to be against the economics of a whopping 90% of the population so Obama won.  This seemed like a good answer at the time.  It satisfied him for two weeks.

Then he had to ask again, how could God let a baby killer be president of the united States.  I have to admit that the term baby killer is not too strong a word when Barack OBama advocates abortion in the ninth month of pregnancy.  My personal oppinion is if the baby is alive then C-section or induced labor is the answer and there is no such thing as aborting a baby who’s in the womb at month 9.  In any event I had to explain to him that the Bible states that only a remnant of individuals will go to Heaven.  This means an insy weensy bit I explained to him.  I further explained to him that this is the weensy bit of people that The Bible and God felt were truly Godly.  I explained to him those people who knowingly voted for Barack Obama knowing his abortion policies probably will not see God.  I explained to him that God also spoke of Churches that were not preaching the word of God and the leaders of these Churches and their flocks probably would not see God either.  The bible discusses False prophets and any leader of a church that calls Obama or the Obama’s Godly will most likely not see the Heaven that the bible speaks about.  My son saw the flock of Ebeneezer Baptist church rejoicing when Barack won the election.  I had to explain to him that this was not a Godly church even if it was the church Martin Luther King Jr. grew up in, Martin Luther King said not by the color of our skin but the content of our character.  Obama has severe character flaws, I told my son that Obama’s mother had been an athiest and what we learn in the first couple of years of life according to some psychologists is who we are, if Obama could carelessly advocate abortion at nine months then this was most likely because of his upbringing.  Finally I said that Obama was the result of an unplanned pregnancy and his mother may have told him many times I wish you were never born, you destroyed my life, as Obama said his daughters lives would be messed up by an unplanned pregnancy.  Obama may have a secret wish to not be in this world despite his successes and may wish that his mother would have aborted him even at nine months.I told him I loved him and that the goal that he should have in life is to develop a personal walk with God.  He should not be influenced by the evil in the world but should try to walk in the footsteps of Jesus.

Update The Obama Acceptance Dress: I can see Why She Bought it

In barack obama, entertainment, fashion, michelle obama on November 15, 2008 at 6:49 am

After reading this link,  I’ve discovered why Michelle Obama chose the Gate From Hell Dress:

Gate of Hell Dress

Gate of Hell Dress

Modifications Matter

Modifications Matter

Judging by the white dress in the first picture that’s leaving the runway in back of the runway model’s version of the Obama dress Narcisso designs for skin and body accenturer.  If you want to wear a Narcisso dress you have to be willing to literally let it all hang out.  Unfortunately Michelle Obama though willing to let her husband be a maverick and run for president was not willing to be a Maverick and wear the dress as designed.  This unwillingness not only made her a fashion horror but terribly compromised the designer.  I think what should be pointed out based on a higher resolution picture (the second picture) is that the dress Michelle Obama is wearing is not the runway models version, she is not wearing the dress as it was intended to be designed.  It’s not even a knock off of the dress, it’s a totally different dress.

First of off the dresss to the right is a little black dress with red accents. In my opinion the intent of the designer was to make the dress accentuate the positive charms of the wearer and not be just a cover up.   When I actually look at the dress, I’m thinking the designer is thinking about a Latino with silky thick luxurious long black hair with a curvaceous figure.  I’m not seeing Vogue I’m seeing playboy.  This is a very difficult dress to pull off as is , let alone modified.

First of all the dress has cleavage, the designer of the dress wants to see cleavage, whatever the flaws of the dress too many people will be busy looking down the wearers dress than concerned  with the design, especially if it’s wrapped around a playboy Latino’s body.

The designer has gone through pains to minimize the red.  The black portions of the bottom of the dress almost meet up with the red and then their are pipings of black that meet a small section of red.  Juxtaposed, Michelle Obama has basically a red dress on.   The black at the bottom of the dress stops way too early and should almost meet the sash at her waist with a tiny amount of red showing.

At the top the designer has a very minimal amount of red ,with black satin at the cleavage, and red and black fabric like a bra where a woman’s breasts should be. Finally the dress should end with straps. Obama has totally annihilated the cleavage and given the dress a strong helping of red with a tiny amount of black collar.  The critics argue that Mrs. Obama has covered up the straps.  There is no way this dress has straps.  It has a collar.

Finally the bottom of the dress is sheer accenting the theme that the dress is accenting the wearers female attributes rather than being just a dress.  In essence legs and cleavage are on display and it’s an invitation, however since Obama was unwilling to go with the spirit of the dress, she’s left with a horrific dress of mostly red and some black.

Michelle Obama Sends A Toast to Bethesda Softworks with her Gates From Hell Oblivion Dress

In politics, presidential race on November 6, 2008 at 5:40 am

Has any one heard of the Elder Scrolls?  Well it’s this totally awesome series of games from Bethesda Soft Works.  My personal favorite is Morrowind, but Oblivion is the latest elder scrolls game.  Due to this fact I could not help but instantly be reminded of the Oblivion Gate when I saw Michelle Obama’s dress.  The Oblivion gate is a gate to a hell like other world in the game Oblivion.  I tried not to mention the hell dress but Wonkette made the hell dress reference first and I’m just putting my two cents in.

In any event here is Michelle Obama’s Dress:

Gate of Hell Dress

Gate of Hell Dress

Here is the Video of the Oblivion Gate and the whole other world of Oblivion.

Here is a photo of Oblivion.

Oblivion Gate

Oblivion Gate

In Oblivion they have various Daedra or life forces.  One of the forces is the Golden Saint.  See Below

golden saint

golden saint

The Elder Scrolls has often used the names of various famous people to name objects, since Michelle Obama is wearing an oblivion dress maybe they’ll create some sort of Daedra named after her a female daedra dressed in black and blood red.

Halloween was several days ago maybe Mrs. Obama has been so busy she may have accidentally put on her Halloween costume to stand by the side of what will be the first Black President of the United States, maybe they were out of suits and ball gowns that night, hell since they were outside even some slacks and a nice blouse would have been appropriate.  Was she out of those too?

As for the dress in the first photo, the models are 20 Michelle Obama is 40+. In January she will officially be in her mid 40’s.  As Michelle Obama represents the United States in more conservative parts of the world such as North Korea she may want to start dressing like she’s in her mid 40’s.  You’re old enough to run for president baby and your figure knows it.  Palin and Condi have  much hotter figures but they have never abandoned their conservative looks as they represent the United States.  Finally, Michelle Obama may have thought Barack Obama had a good chance of losing so she wore the red blood of the people and the black skin of the people on her back.  Yeah I had that shirt too when I was much younger:


Finally we may never see Michelle Obama in a suit again because she may be protesting Western Culture and the White Man or if she’s like me when you buy a suit you have to face the fact of what your actual dress size is.  For me I am going to put Beyonces figure with my face on my dream board and use the secret to get my body in shape.

On the positive side Michelle Obama’s hair and makeup looked great and the children looked totally awesome, they had on great little dresses, and if a mother has to choose between herself and her children, surely the children come first and they did.   Finally Michelle Obama has to be admired.  She worked hard with Barack Obama to win the presidency.  I think that that’s so wonderful.  Love her or hate her Michelle Obama is a total winner.