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Lee Daniels and the Circus of the Mind On Empire (Stankpire) STANKY

In black culture, culture, entertainment, tv on November 12, 2015 at 4:41 am

4726626277_c434cb77f0_zLet me Caveat this post by saying one sentence.  I never knew Greys Anatomy had a black writer until I was told.  Now let me begin with the Circus of the Mind.

I tell people that the series Empire lost me with the bad music the one time I saw it. I attempted to look again last night and again the music hurt my ears, but I was watching with my elderly mother and I was enjoying the family time with her so instead of going to bed I watched for about fifteen minutes until I turned it off in disgust.

The story line was so racist against browner sisters that I felt I was looking at an episode of Black in America hosted by the 4c hair chick below Soledad O’Brien.

Soledad O'brienLet me briefly recap this Black in America episode where most of the paper bag colored women had straight permed hair and one afro; and all of the brown and darker women looked like they did not understand what a comb was. Ditto that for Empire last night.  Taraji P. Henson has beautiful hair on her own and the story managed to find the worst wig they could find with her. The other brown chick on the story was a pure ass dyke meanwhile white and paper bag colored women rolled around with their hair in place and obviously employed by the record companies to sing which that does not imitate life at all if we look at the successful black girl groups in the past.  There was a lot of variation in hair, skin tone and body shape, The way Lee Daniels presents it is clown like and ridiculous.

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Finally, what caused me to turn it off was as we look at the relationship between Cookie and her man, after three days of sex we find out he’s pretending to like her. Meanwhile all of the black men are obsessed with paper bag colored and white women. If only they would have let cookie have a relationship.  If life imitates art black men are truly pathetic as they are portrayed in Empire.  I finally turned it off and shook my head and thought about how Miles Davis fought to have his black wife on the cover of his album and now how black men are doing the job of stomping on black women that some black men cared to correct in the 60’s.

Finally Finally I just want to make a comment black men and white women seem to want to make a new race of their children, interracial.  People of mixed race were labeled black by white people and the black community the blacker ones were always kind, raised them as black.  Now as we enter a new day.  These people are trying to draw clear untrue divisions between black women and multiracial black women. Black women do know how to find a hairstylist. Not all darker skinned women strive to be men or want to be men. Finally there are enough men for every woman in America to have a man, maybe not a black man but a man. As for a Latino man playing a black woman this has not been my experience.  I dated a Latino man once and the one thing he wanted to do is buy me stuff, he wanted to take me to the mall and buy expensive stuff for me.  I am a browner woman and the only people that have ever pretended to like me were black men.

Furtheremore, I want to add that one time I saw an episode of family feud an interracial couple where the white wife was just as fat as she could be. She had lost herself just like black women do with some black men.  When the show was over he ran to the all white female family to go hug up on them.  It was really ironic. I say this to say that some black men have a problem with themselves not women and Empire is a sad commentary on what is wrong. It was a circus last night.

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Tiger Woods: Minitruth, Delete tweet, Time Traveler Elin Woods AMY PART II

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, Assassination, celebrities, culture, current events, elin nordegren, elin woods, entertainment, ethnic twitters, female blogger, female bloggers, politics, Race, Race and Class, relationships, Sex, sports, The Police, tiger woods on February 23, 2010 at 3:37 am

Tiger Woods  made a statement and expects the world to believe him.  First of all I don’t care about Tiger Woods and am very resentful he knocked more relevant news off of the air like an assassination of a Hamas Leader, a jobs bill, a healthcare bill, and other more worthy coverage.  Tiger Woods is trying to manipulate me as a viewer of the news and a follower of current events.  The honest truth is I will not be manipulated. 

I suppose making a statement is standard fare for athletes at this point, but the statements regarding domestic violence and the lack of it in Tiger and Elin’s marriage is little hard to believe and frankly are not credulous statements.  In my mind and just my mind Elin Woods is like the Alabama shooter an accident waiting to manifest and if the world and Tiger Woods continue to cover up her actions she will eventually do something horrible.  I am not one to judge, I have done things I have regretted in the past but the one characteristic that I’ve had is the realization that I was wrong, apologetic, and it happened.  As Tiger Woods knows from his statement the first step in any recovery is acknowledging you have a problem.  As long as it is not acknowledged that Elin Woods busted out THREE SUV windows because she was angry, did confirmed extensive damage to the inside of the house because she was angry she has a problem and is dangerous to herself and others. 

The pretend  world that Tiger and Elin Woods are living in is a world insulated by billions of dollars and can probably protect Elin a lot ; but as friends, loved ones, and people who have knowledge of Amy Bishop know that when or if Elin Woods loses all of her marbles the damage may be so horrific that people will question WHY was this problem  allowed to fester so long.  The big question for me is does Elin realize that she destroyed her own home, chased her husbands SUV while in a golf cart most likely running him off the road and definitely knocking out three windows the side one and was it two back ones?  Does she remember doing 60,000 dollars worth of damage to a house that she and Tiger  lived in while he was on a PGA tour?  Do Elin and Tiger Woods honestly believe the lies that were fed to the media?

This is not the first case of operatives of Tiger Woods attempting to lie to the media.  Ronda Storms a state representative of Florida tried to drum up rumours that there were false reports of child abuse connected to the Tiger Woods Home and that the state of Florida was looking to prosecute someone; while according to Florida Newspapers the Attorney General of Florida had not received one complaint from Family Services that a false report had been made.  What my sources said was that the POLICE referred the case to Family Services because of the condition of  Tiger Woods face and by law they were required to report the incident.    This is what I initially heard prior to this state representative making these obviously false statements and wasting not TIGER WOODS BILLIONS BUT TAXPAYER MONEY WITH FALSE CLAIMS UNSUBSTANTIATED BY THE ATTORNEY GENERALS OFFICE OF FLORIDA. 

The Tiger Woods Farce is just endemic of the society we live in.  Tiger Woods obviously thinks the world is a time machine where history can be rewritten ie.  the book in his car dealt with physics that can lead to time travel,  a 1984 Tiger Woods is BIG BROTHER and has directed the Ministry of Truth (minitruth) to redirect what happened between He and his wife to be rewritten where the truth becomes a lie, or maybe he thinks his life is a tweet and he can delete the tweet and what was done never happened.  Whatever, I wish he would just play golf and leave me out of his personal life what needs to be known, I know he’s not the source, and a sometimes complicit  media can not be trusted.

Hey isn’t Tiger Woods the celebrity caught having sex in the  church parking lot with a waitress and got the media to take a pass on reporting this even though they had pictures, WOW!! If I were caught in the church parking lot having sex you know what would happen to me, I would go straight to jail.  TIGER WOODS = NO SYMPATHY NONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!  As for ELIN WOODS DOES SHE HONESTLYY BELIEVE SHE DOES NOT HAVE A PROBLEM OR BUSTED OUT THREE WINDOWS TO GET TIGER WOODS OUT OF THE CAR IF SHE DOES WE HAVE AMY BISHOP PART II AN ACCIDENT WAITING TO HAPPEN!!!!  

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Evaluating The Social Consequences of The Perception Tiger Woods was Beat Down By A White Woman

In African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, black twitters, Black Women Bloggers, elin woods, entertainment, ethnic twitters, family, tiger woods on February 21, 2010 at 8:02 am

I have been following the Tiger Woods domestic going ons since it happened and for me personally it looked like a NORMAL domestic dispute, but for many Caucasians the fact that Elin Woods may have beat the hell out of Tiger Woods to the point of causing him to have reconstructive surgery seems to have been quite liberating to some white folks and indicate to them that Jim Crow policies are back. 

The first indication to me that something was up came when I heard a talk show host imply that since Elin was a Nord “pure white” she knew how to handle the blacks, I know he could not have said the words but the implication was there.  The next indication to me that something was really up was when I went to the cost club and observed a white manager screaming at a black male employee, the tone he used was like the man was a mule misbehaving, or like if you don’t get a move on it I’m going to beat your black ass.  He was screaming at this young man.  

While I understand that Tiger Woods did not hit back if he was beat, because he has a lot of control and understands a man does not hit a woman and  he deserved a knock on the head by his behavior infidelity, lies, even putting his mistress on the phone with his wife to say SHE WAS JUST A FRIEND, earned him a clunk on the head.    However, many white people have taken it as a sign of weakness that he did not whack his wife back, its almost like they believe Tiger Woods would not dare hit a white woman because he knows they would send a lynching party after his black  ass.  Racism  is so insidious, some folks have taken the Woods domestic dispute as a rallying cry for hating on people of color.   The Republicans at CEPAC have even adopted it as their rallying cry not against black people of course, but against big government.

However in the Teabag/Republican world the lines have become blurred as to whether there is an insane hate for big government or just an insane hate that the elite club of President has been breached by a black man.  So in my mind when Pawlenty invokes the name of Elin Woods and Big Government the psychic implications to me are bust the windows out of that Niggers window who’s inhabiting the white house.  While this is not what Pawlenty said by invoking the actions and the name of Elin Woods Pawlenty threw a wink to the Tea Baggers saying I’m on your side lets beat the hell out of that nigger with votes of course but the implications were there all the same.

The final indicator of the psychic hit Elin Woods threw out to whites by her assault on her husband is the following video, a  huge bulky 67 year old man tells a black fellow passenger on the bus to shine his shoes and it escalates from there, in this elderly man’s mind it’s almost like he does not understand why a black man is sitting across from him and why he the white man is in the back of the bus so he taunts the black guy until the black  man hits him on the arm and the white guy proceeds to go Elin on the black  man drawing lots of blood.

While one can argue the 50 year old black man should have stayed in his seat and kept quiet, one has to wonder what happened at a Baseball game where the same 67 year old man was tased by the police:

 If anyone doubts my argument that the incident has social consequences and that people are using the Elin incident to play the Race card, watch Glenn Beck comparing Tiger Woods to OJ Simpson: 

 

I suppose the ultimate question regarding Tiger Woods is:  Is the green coat  he’s won worth it for black people, ultimately the anwer may be no.  Ultimately, Earl Woods may have done the world a favor by allowing Tiger Woods to be a regular guy instead of who he is, married to who he’s married to.

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Tiger Woods Fool of the Decade

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, athletes, black blogger, black bloggers, black twitters, Black Women Bloggers, current events, elein woods, elin woods, entertainment, rachel uchitel, sports on December 29, 2009 at 10:31 am

As an African American Woman I have extremely conflicting emotions towards Tiger Woods.  There is my gut feeling that turns my stomach at the way that he’s treated his wife and his family, and there are the sane rational feelings that tell me no matter what Tiger Woods has done he’s the master of his craft and what I should be studying are his mental strengths and characteristics that allowed him to be the Master of the Masters, that allowed him to be the first nonwhite person to ever win the Masters.  These are qualities worth embracing and loving but lately the stomach turning has not stopped.

Daily there is a new story about Tiger Woods character that literally makes me dislike him and think that he’s a rotten egg.  The tales of mistresses are not enough to make me hate him, he’s married he’s a billionaire his wife can have literally anything in this world she wants except the fidelity of Tiger Woods, not bad for a woman that’s gone from working in a boutique and being a nanny to being the wife of a billionaire.  However the manner upon which he conducted his last affair with Rachel Uchitel,  Joy Behar had to apologize to for saying Uchitel she’s a Hooker, has been startling.  The careless text messages have been jaw dropping Tiger writes the following to Rachel Uchitel,

“I get it. It f—–g kills me, too. I finally found someone I connect with…..”someone I have never found like this. Not even at home.”

Rachel Uchitel

When reading the text messages that Tiger Woods wrote to Rachel Uchitel and connecting them with the persona of Rachel Uchitel  my heart takes over and I feel extreme disgust for Tiger Woods.  Infidelity is wrong but when it appears to be with a a woman who looks like she’s done the whole golf team or helped the whole golf course be unfaithful to their wives, my head cannot reconcile me to the genius athlete that Tiger Woods is.  While I don’t believe that hitting someone in the head with a golf club is the right thing to do, and I do think that Elin  should have seen the inside of a jail at least overnight, I do believe the circumstances that led Elin Woods to clunk her husband on the head could definitely be called a justifiably out of her mind moment. Tiger Woods is alleged to have spent Thanksgiving Day frantically texting Rachel  Uchitel the woman above with her mouth on another woman’s thigh, and with the five guys, he forgot to erase one picture and left his “smart” phone at home with a picture of a naked uchitel on it that she had sent to him that day with the full knowledge that it was the First Thanksgiving of Wood’s nine month old and two is such a precious age for  the other  child, Uchitel chose that day to spend it sending naked pictures to Woods while he was at least trying to be a family man, what a woman!  In any event the wife of Tiger Woods become so enraged by the way that Tiger Woods was treating her and over the picture,  she hit him in the head with a golf club and you know the rest of the saga.

The point to be made here is I am an avid twitterer and texting while with a date, loved ones, and people that you like and respect and have taken the time to be with you is so disrespectful.  I have even twittered that the world did not lose much of a man when AJ  or RJ of  The Real Housewives of Atlanta was killed because I saw one episode of Atlanta housewives and observed whatever his name texting the whole time he was at a party.  If I felt this way watching RJ/AJ I can only imagine my feelings towards watching Tiger woods texting the woman above with her mouth on another woman’s thigh and with the five guys, texting her the whole Thanksgiving Holiday.   I know I would want to clunk tiger on the head too because every time I think of the Atlanta housewives episode with RJ or AJ I get really angry that someone would treat someone like that.

While my head still admires Tiger Woods, my heart is just not with him.  While my head says Elin no longer has to hang clothes on a rack or wipe the nose of someone elses snotty nosed children my heart says nobody should text their mistress in front of their wife. Mistress time is mistress time and home time is home time the two should not mix.  Tiger Woods should have shown some  sort of decency in his dealings with his family and all for what the woman who made Joy Behar apologize to her for saying Uchitel its a Hooker.

The author of this post has nothing against divorce and does not believe marriage should be a life term in the penitentiary, but she does believe that when someone can no longer be the majority of the person the other one married they should be honest and call it quits.  I have no clue what Tiger Woods prenup says but if it says he has to give Elin Woods 300 million dollars if he leaves her then he should have swallowed it and left instead of being the FOOL of The Decade.  Elin Nordgram Woods deserved more so much more than what she got a heartless Prince that drove her insane.

Elin and Tiger Woods Coming to a French Castle Near You

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, celebrities, culture, current events, entertainment, Sex, tiger woods on December 16, 2009 at 7:55 am

Have you heard Elin and Tiger woods are moving to a French Castle yeah they are they are coming to a French castele near you.

As Tiger Woods contemplates a move to the South of France for its strict restrictions on privacy , one feels concern, a little bit more concern than one feels because they are in the dark  that Angelina Jolie is motoring two residents down for a tryst with her mistress.  One feels grave concern that Tiger Woods has been solely blamed for a marital problems when it appears that the 6’1 185 pound billionaire athlete was almost beat to death by his golf iron wielding wife.  While marital infidelity is terrible going from a nanny to the wife of a billionaire should be enough to comfort you enough not to harm the golden hen or the golden gulfer.

It is disturbing that Elin Woods did not think about her actions prior to getting in a gulf cart with an iron and bashing in three windows of the couples SUV and maybe getting one in on Tigers head.  What is making the issue almost ludicrous is instead of getting help for both of them Elin with her anger and Tiger with his cheating, they feel the answer to their problems is more privacy.  Personally, when I think of the Woods getting any more privacy I think of a dead Tiger Woods that’s mysteriously missing dead in an Elin fit of anger and burned and buried in some castle undercroft, and  the gorgeous young women of France turning  up missing because they have innocently broken down near the Woods castle and Elin has mistaken them for Santa Reps that say Ho Ho Ho.

Letterman and The Clique Of Bitches

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, black blogger, black bloggers, black twitters, Black Women Bloggers, entertainment, female blogger, female bloggers, Sex on October 7, 2009 at 6:43 am

Sometimes people get so embroiled in their intragroup relationships and communications they forget that there is a whole world that is not in their group or their clique. They surround themselves with people that think the same way, act the same way, and only amplify their small view of the world. This is the conudrum of David Letterman and his Clique of Bitches. As an African American I have frequently run into individuals who only live in a certain social class who are used to saying certain things, believing certain things and verbally exclaiming very damaging stereotypes about poor and struggling blacks that in most cases simply are not true.

When Letterman cavalierly announced that he was sleeping with the women who worked for him and basically said, so what. Letterman revealed that he was hanging within a clique that I entitle the Clique of Bitches. I am not calling the women bitches but I am willing to bet that in his mind, in the minds of his associates and the men that he surrounds himself with, they think of women as bitches to be thrown away used and in the least a functional urinal. The caveat with Letterman was that in his mind he told himself just like the jock tells the virgin, everybodys doing it. Every man who is able to has a clique of bitches. Letterman told himself everyone’s sleeping with their staff not just in his industry but even the mom and pop waitresses are sleeping with pop. So he cavalierly announced that he had slept with his staff and made a two million dollar old fool out of himself.

Personally I find it disturbing that a man who has managed to make forty million dollars a year did it without having to possess a shred of sophistication or knowledge of the outside world. David Letterman revealed that in this mean society we live in that there are some men who only believe the only way a woman can get a job is on her back or her knees, and judging by the attitude towards his staff he assumes that women like it. He naturally assumes that women are giving free sex to a sixty-two year old man because they sexually desire him not because they need or want a job or the money. The sixty million dollar Larry King question of Letterman’s past female employees is DID YOU LIKE IT? . I hazard to guess not much. Please don’t forget to follow me on twitter blackhippychick

4 Things You Must Know About the Rihanna Beating

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, black twitters, Black Women Bloggers, celebrities, entertainment, ethnic twitters, female blogger, female bloggers on March 15, 2009 at 5:51 pm

I have been discussing the Chris Brown and Rihanna beating in a vacuum without knowing the true facts of the incident.  There are several things that I have said that have been just wrong and uninformed.  Honestly I have been taking my information concerning Chris Brown and Rihanna from the Television Media and not the online media blogs, newspapers etc that I take political news from.  However I corrected this today by just being nosy and wondering about the 39 year old woman that it is alleged that Chris Brown had an affair with I found out that the Chris Brown and Rihanna incident is horrific.  If everyone is speculating that Chris Brown will one day kill Rihanna the honest truth is he has already attempted to kill her.  With that let’s begin the list of what really happened so we can have an intelligent conversation with children about the incident.  Every parent in Boston should be ashamed that 50% of their teens believe that Rihanna is at fault for what happened to her.  

Here are the supposed Facts that Show Rihanna was in no way responsible for what happened to her.

Fact #1 Chris Brown is Guilty of Attempted Murder

The following two sources are stating that Chris Brown left Rihanna in the middle of the street unconscious bruised and battered. 

The Huffington Post

“He put his hands around her neck and, according to the insider, said, “I’m going to kill you!”

According to the source, the 20-year-old “Disturbia” singer told police that she lost consciousness, and when she awoke, Brown had fled.”

New York Daily News
It was the first time she hit the town since cops found her battered, alone on a dark street and willing to identify Brown as her attacker the morning before the Grammy Awards.

EurWeb

According to the E! Online source, “He reportedly exited the car and tried in vain to find the keys, then grabbed Rihanna’s neck and began choking her, saying, ‘I’m going to kill you!'”

There are no gray areas here.  If Chris Brown choked Rihanna until she was unconscious and left her in the middle of the street unconscious.  He thought he killed her and left her there.  This is without a doubt attempted murder.  While LA is famous for letting women get killed by superstars ie. Phil Spector  and the Actress Lana Clarkson.  Rihanna is a huge superstar and the charges of attempted murder should have been attached to Chris Brown’s name. 

Fact # 2 Rihanna tried to get out of the car, Chris Brown pulled her back in and beat her. 

I am guilty of saying the following about Rihanna could  have gotten out the car.  According to a New York Daily News report Rihanna did get out the car Chris Brown pulled her back in and beat her.

The New York Daily News

Says the Following:

“They started to argue. She got out of the car. He wanted her to get back in, so he grabbed her. She pulled away. That’s when she’s told people he hit her.”

EurWeb Says the following: 

   The Daily News source explained: “She got out of the car. He wanted her to get back in, so he grabbed her. She pulled away. That’s when she’s told people he hit her.”      

Fact #3  Chris Brown had beat Rihanna Before

According to ABC

“If Brown did hit Rihanna early Sunday morning, it might not have been the first time. According to TMZ.com, the 20-year-old pop star told police that Brown had abused her before the weekend attack that reportedly left her bruised and bloodied and that the violence was getting progressively worse. ”

Us Weekly magazine also quoted unnamed sources close to Rihanna who claim this isn’t the first time Brown’s beaten and bruised her.

According to Fox News

” The problem with that, Greta — well, there are several, but one of them is she told cops he did it to her before and it was escalating violence”  

Fact #4 Rihanna is suffering from Battered Wifes Syndrome. “

We all blame Rihanna for going back to Chris Brown but she is suffering from Battered Women’s Syndrome.  This syndrome can ultimately end up in her death as it almost did the night of the Grammys.  There is no where to go but down.  If  Rihanna stays with Chris Brown and he’s not locked up he will eventually kill her. 

Resources for reading up on battered women’s syndrome can be found here: 

Global Oneness Battered Women’s Syndrome

Canadian Medical Journal Battered Wife Syndrome

Finally I’ve done a paper on the Battered Wife syndrome and the thing that any person needs to know is  if a person hits you once in a threatening manner they will hit you again.

 

I am finished with this issue.  I can only pray now. 

 

 

 

 

Rihanna’s Assault Sheds Light on Hip Hops Illusatory Power

In Afrian American Twitters, African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, african american twitters, black blogger, black bloggers, black twitters, Black Women Bloggers, celebrities, entertainment, ethnic twitters, female blogger, female bloggers on March 14, 2009 at 8:48 am

Hip Hoppers are fond of imitating Gangsters in their videos.  Some even imitate the Italian Mafia.  However with the recent beating of Rihanna by Chris Brown.  Many are questioning the depth and the breadth of Hip Hops ability to be self policing and in the least have the ruthlessness to control star talents such as Chris Brown who not only harm  his bottom line when he beats up women but harm the whole industry.  Actions such as P Diddy in inviting Chris Brown to his home after Rihannas beating further shed light on the falseness of the ruthlessness facade of toughness and Gangsterism.

If the Black Hip Hop world were truly like the mafia the consequences of beating such a big star and money maker as Rihanna would have resulted in swift justice for Chris Brown such as a broken leg or in the least a black eye.  Instead the woman ended up with the black eye almost fueling fire to the homoeroticism rumours swirling around hip hop artists.  Furthermore Rihannas mentor though issuing lip service to his disgust concerning the incident  seemed to be powerless to do anything substantial before the publicly aired beating or after.  The manner in which Rihanna quickly returned to Chris Brown leads me to believe that this was not Rihanna’s first time being beat at the hands of  Chris Brown.  If this is true this further sheds light on the weak individuals that are in the hip hop industry and are Rihanna’s friends and lovers.   Even if Rihanna  chooses to go back to Chris Brown it seems like someone in the tough guy hip hop industry does not have the balls to tell Chris Brown if you hit her one more time you’re going to be gone from this earth.  It just goes to show cash does not always translate into power.

A southern father in a small town has more power than these wealthy hip hoppers.  In my early twenties I took a cross country trip on the greyhound bus and sat next to a man who had just gotten out of jail.  He wanted to talk and seemed to think that he had been framed by a southern gentlemen because he cheated on his daughter.  He seemed to think someone had planted drugs in his car and sent him off to jail for three years making Bob Barker shoes.  Whether this story was true or not this Southern Father did what it took to defend his daughters honor.  In the meanwhile hip hoppers are getting Prissy on the runway and kissing each other in the mouth.  You know who you are.  They seem to have forgotten who the girl is.  Are they beating on women to indicate to their secret lovers that the straight life is just a facade.

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Atlanta Ladies Do Not Take A Date Here

In African American Bloggers, African American Blogs, Atlanta, black blogger, black bloggers, Black Women Bloggers, borowing, borrowing, celebrities, College Educated, entertainment, family, fashion, female blogger, female bloggers, Georgia, Neighborhoods, relationships on February 26, 2009 at 9:40 am

You know I had a favorite spot that I liked to go.  I liked to go there so much that when my black professional  group decided to change venues to a predominately white meeting place instead of going next door I canceled my membership.  The thing that I liked so much about this place was that it seemed to be like a movie set.

However, after taking a date to Club Circa I decided that the whole I-20 corridor is not date friendly.  I have written previously about taking a friend, a strong friend  to a restaurant in Conyers and having the waitress ask him, my close to four hundred pound friend lick the hot sauce off her arm.  Ladies, just because he’s with me this does not mean he is rich or has a big penis.  He may just be my friend.  I was slightly amused by the incident because he was not my boyfriend and not my love interest but it made me strongly concerned about the families in the Conyers area that were exchanging black wives for white wives considering this woman was white.   In any event I don’t know what happened between them, I encouraged him to go back  another time because he wanted  me to help him shop for presents for his toddler son in North Dakota.  It should be noted however that he had already asked me to marry him, move in with him, do whatever it took just to be special to me.  This would have never happened considering I had a friend years ago who dated him and loved him.  He’s extremely charismatic and a phenomenal friend.   If I need something even though I have not spoken to him in a year he’ll come through.

In any event I have never had much of a problem meeting men when I just walk out of the door , single eligible men.  To just give you an example of my past  I have met one Grammy award nominee in the grocery store.  I met a physical therapist in the grocery store.  I met someone who opened for an act that has won five grammys at Georgia State University, and I know one man who writes and performs for grammy and award winning acts all around the world who I met at Barnes and Noble in Buckhead who used to call me from London and Paris and other places every night.  The truth is I was not interested in any of the people I have mentioned except maybe the guy who called from London and Paris and he was too impatient meaning when he was in town I had to be ready to make a move immediately, as well as some other reasons that made him turn into just a plain rat.  In any event I have never looked for just a man, but a man that I liked and was compatible with.

The men I usually ended up dating in the past and liked very much were usually visual artists, or writers, or maybe a persistent engineer.  I just want to say that the particular engineer that built bridges that I met was the best.  I could say I want and he would not just bring me one he’d bring me thirty- phenomenal.  The one incident that I think defined me and let me know that I had it was when my friends in college dragged me to a fraternity party because the man I liked/loved who was supposed to be coming from D.C. did not show up and I was dragged to this Frat party.  I am not a dancer, except in the dark because I am extremely shy.  So when one of the frat guys jumped into my lap and said either you came here to dance or to fuck , if not get out. I left and so did every other woman in the place.  I always chuckle when I think about this incident.

In regards to men I would also like to add that the majority of men that have come up to me and I have dated extensively have been well endowed.  It was not until the end of my marriage while in my thirties  and I got back into the dating scene that I actually knew that the statement  all black men are well endowed was just a plain out myth and a lie.     I have never had much of a problem attracting a man, if any man would do I suppose I would have one.

In order to find the right man, I turned to the personal ads of craigslist.  I was looking for an intelligent man in the least, a person that I could hold a conversation with.  I was not looking for someone with the characteristics of my former husband a 6’2 dead ringer for Rick Fox who was extremely intelligent and profoundly gifted who produced our daughter who is a dead ringer for an Asian looking Hallie Berry.  And where do I fit into this star studded continuum, one night as I was leaving a political meeting at Manuel’s Tavern a man screamed out of the car Chaka as in Chaka Khan.  My mother told me that I should not be flattered because this meant he was calling me fat.  Oh Well!  In any event I turned to craigslist to find someone to talk to and possibly probably have a long term relationship with.

I went out on the first date with a man I knew I was just not interested in nor even for a friend, we went to Chilis in Lithonia and the waitress went into a long story about only getting paid a certain amount  an hour and how she had no one to take her out.  I watched as she flirted with my date the whole night and  I thought just in character, I think on my next date I’ll go to Atlanta and my date ended with him saying maybe we should have gone to Midtown.  I was not interested in this first date and it ended with her giving him a check that had come and see me again in quotations.  This basically characterizes the black Atlanta dating scene whether it’s date night for marrieds or date night for singles.  This is why I think Forbes rated Atlanta as one of the best places for singles because it’s so predatory and the advantage is for men.  The caveat is I have fielded stares and glances from men who were with other women, while taking my family out to a birthday celebration one man sat and stared at me until I left and his date probably wife was evidently oblivious to what was going on or did not care as long as she could keep purchasing her LV pocketbooks.  I suppose the women that I have had the misfortune to run into with a lot of exceptions may have winked and managed to get him his number, but that’s not me.   Since I have not begun to tell my Circa story I would like to add that I was sitting beside a man at Cafe Circa who was tall and good looking that I could have been extremely interested in but he had a date and I had a date so I tried not to look at him.  Maybe if I change my personality in my next life I’ll slip my phone number to him. As the date I was with is fond of explaining about parallel universes and the time continuum maybe this is what I did in a parallel universe slipped my phone number to him and experienced the pleasure of his extreme good looks and long body.

Anyway I’ve written so much backgrond to get into this story at Circa I’m sick of writing.  Circa is a place that I stumbled upon, for some reason the coffee shop that my professional group was meeting at was now consistently closed at the time we were supposed to meet there.  I think it was someone’s comment about her green or burgundy hair that shut us out of that venue, but she refused to open for us anymore.  I did manage to catch her open the first time I came to the meeting and in attendance was the African contingency of professionals who were lots of  fun to be around, the Ethiopians, Somalis and some others nice……… In any event at the next meeting the proprietor had shut the place down and we had to find another place to meet which ended up being next door but in the midst of Atlanta off of Auburn Avenue where the King home was located had the feeling of skinhead heaven.  We managed to meet at this locale despite the fact that the staff kept throwing us glances like they hated us and did not want our money because we were black.  Unfortunately at the next meeting the coffeehouse women did not show up  so we went to Cafe Circa two doors down and had a wonderful time.  I thought Circa was a great place.  I told my friends and family about it .

So I naturally assumed that Cafe Circa would be a great place to bring a date, a craigslist date that I liked that I talked to for ninety minutes at a time. I also assumed that it was safe because my dear single  friend who I think is one of the most honorable and greatest men I have ever met had recently given a private party there that I could not attend due to illness so I naturally assumed that this place would be a place where the wait staff knew how to act, some of the things that happened I am not going to get into because it seems so strange and surreal, like the singer singing Tyrone by Erykah Badu and when my date could not hear me he texted something on his phone and passed the phone to me and she started singing don’t even have no phone, have to use my phone to text.  At the time I thought the singer was irritated because we were not giving her all of our attention but when I got home and thought about it I was really offended.

In any event I have not gotten to the good part yet.  The waitress came and took our order.  My date orderedtwo drinks and water.  I ordered one Peach Martini.  The waitress came back and put each one of his three drinks on a coaster, meaning three drinks and three straws, for my one little drink I did not get a coaster or a straw.  The waitress then preceded to lay and rub on my date all night long and glare at me from the corner.  I noticed this because my date was asking me not to button up my sweater  so he could look down my cleavage and I jokingly said yeah I saw a psychologist on TV and she had a big necklace on in her cleavage which indicated to me that we were supposed to be looking at her cleavage and nothing else. I pointed to my cleavage and jokingly said you’re supposed to be looking at my cleavage and nothing else, as I looked up the waitress was staring straight down my throat.  It made me feel rather strange.  Suddenly she came up and jerked my plate off of the table and I was quite shocked.

I honestly did not think anything of it, until I went out with my date that I like very much the next night to the Real Chow Baby at the Galleria – excellent staff , my craigslist date commented on the trendiness of the staff and their attire.  He thought one waitress had a mohawk but I explained to him she had a really great perm.  She was cute, young, and free and that’s just how you should be at twenty- something not trying to glare someone down for being on a date.  The Real Chow baby was a totally different atmosphere, I know it’s more general audience oriented  but Christ even at a lounge the waitress should not be feeling and rubbing your date up unless they are looking for johns.  In any event we went to cafe Intermezzo in Dunwoody after the Real Chow Baby where I found out the date had given the waitress at Cafe Circa a 25% tip.  I think I could have swallowed twenty because I give twenty to most people even if the service is not great but twenty-five percent was a little hard to swallow, I’ve even been out with 50 and hundred dollar tippers but the waiter or waitress respected me and my date.  I was taken aback and offended that I could be treated so shabbily and my date preceded to give the woman a twenty-five percent tip. I was mad at him and this revelation made me really think that Cafe Circa does offer the services of women of questionable character, I know my date paid for a back rub and to get laid on.  Ladies if your married man tells you he’s going to Circa for business I would question if it’s monkey business compliments of the wait staff.

Finally I would like to say Cafe Intermezzo in Dunwoody was wonderful as usual.  It’s been a great date spot for years.  I have an affinity for Dunwoody, when I temped, the temp agencies in Dunwoody always made sure that I had a job and was working.  When I was in an executive training program and all of the participants had MBA’s Dunwoody still found a place for me in this program.  Dunwoody is a good place as well as my family has had other financial and banking needs that the 20 corrider could not take care of and the Galleria area  where The Real Chow Baby is located came through.  I suppose I say all of this to say that if I take the time to put an ad in craigslist.  I should take the time to suggest places to my date that exemplify the character and the values that I try to practice in real life.

The twenty corridor is not doing it for me and ladies Circa Cafe is an absolutely horrible place to take someone you like and cherish to.  I am trying to salvage even a friendship out of this craigslist person that I loved talking to but the shadow of a 25% tip when I could not get a coaster or a straw and had my plate jerked from under me is making me feel that my date just did not respect me as much as he should, he says he did not know.  We talk everyday for at least two hours but I’m still wondering about him. 🙂

Update The Obama Acceptance Dress: I can see Why She Bought it

In barack obama, entertainment, fashion, michelle obama on November 15, 2008 at 6:49 am

After reading this link,  I’ve discovered why Michelle Obama chose the Gate From Hell Dress:

Gate of Hell Dress

Gate of Hell Dress

Modifications Matter

Modifications Matter

Judging by the white dress in the first picture that’s leaving the runway in back of the runway model’s version of the Obama dress Narcisso designs for skin and body accenturer.  If you want to wear a Narcisso dress you have to be willing to literally let it all hang out.  Unfortunately Michelle Obama though willing to let her husband be a maverick and run for president was not willing to be a Maverick and wear the dress as designed.  This unwillingness not only made her a fashion horror but terribly compromised the designer.  I think what should be pointed out based on a higher resolution picture (the second picture) is that the dress Michelle Obama is wearing is not the runway models version, she is not wearing the dress as it was intended to be designed.  It’s not even a knock off of the dress, it’s a totally different dress.

First of off the dresss to the right is a little black dress with red accents. In my opinion the intent of the designer was to make the dress accentuate the positive charms of the wearer and not be just a cover up.   When I actually look at the dress, I’m thinking the designer is thinking about a Latino with silky thick luxurious long black hair with a curvaceous figure.  I’m not seeing Vogue I’m seeing playboy.  This is a very difficult dress to pull off as is , let alone modified.

First of all the dress has cleavage, the designer of the dress wants to see cleavage, whatever the flaws of the dress too many people will be busy looking down the wearers dress than concerned  with the design, especially if it’s wrapped around a playboy Latino’s body.

The designer has gone through pains to minimize the red.  The black portions of the bottom of the dress almost meet up with the red and then their are pipings of black that meet a small section of red.  Juxtaposed, Michelle Obama has basically a red dress on.   The black at the bottom of the dress stops way too early and should almost meet the sash at her waist with a tiny amount of red showing.

At the top the designer has a very minimal amount of red ,with black satin at the cleavage, and red and black fabric like a bra where a woman’s breasts should be. Finally the dress should end with straps. Obama has totally annihilated the cleavage and given the dress a strong helping of red with a tiny amount of black collar.  The critics argue that Mrs. Obama has covered up the straps.  There is no way this dress has straps.  It has a collar.

Finally the bottom of the dress is sheer accenting the theme that the dress is accenting the wearers female attributes rather than being just a dress.  In essence legs and cleavage are on display and it’s an invitation, however since Obama was unwilling to go with the spirit of the dress, she’s left with a horrific dress of mostly red and some black.